Memes and Musings

You want to know something that annoys me?

Smug posts on social media about the longevity of marriage being attributed to the couple coming from a time where people fixed broken things and didn’t throw them away.

Do the posters ever stop to consider that when a relationship ends the couple are not necessarily “throwing it away”? Have they ever stopped to think that for years and years and years at least ONE of the two people in the relationship (often even BOTH of them!) worked long and hard to try and “fix” it? 

Thousands of dollars may have been spent on counselling and therapy and going on dates and holidays, trying desperately hard to make it work because somewhere, deep inside, the both of them remembered why they got together in the first place and were reluctant to let that go!

But in the end, no matter how much the couple may have wanted it, no matter how hard they tried, the brokenness persisted because, individually, they were two broken people getting more and more broken by the day trying so hard to make it work and trying to “fix” each other.

So, instead of “throwing it away” they reluctantly “let it go” because neither of them wanted to see the other one hurting anymore and neither of them wanted to BE hurt anymore. They both loved each other enough to know when to set each other free to learn how to be the best individuals they could possibly be on their own.

And even though they are no longer together there is still that yearning; wishing that somehow it could have been fixed.

So the next time someone wants to share one of those memes….give a thought to those who may have wanted “till death do us part” but parted so that they both could live.